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I think it depends on the individual you ask, but generally I'd say it's just a matter of preference. You're attracted to what you're attracted to, period.

I think if you make a big deal about it maybe it reveals something about you. But if you find yourself only interested in traditionally masculine men, it doesn't have to be any deeper than "they make my cock hard".

Anonymous said...

Personally I am only attracted to "butch" or masculine guys but have a lot of gay friends that are a tad swishy and I love them just as they are and would not change a thing. Just don't wanna hook up with them.

For example in the picture above, same guy but photo on left is HOT and I would want to totally hook up with him. Photo on left with over tweezed eye brows, not so hot and does nothing for me sexually although the same exact person.


I don't look at masculinity or femininity as dating criteria since I am in a committed relationship of twelve years. I don't particularly feel comfortable around more feminine males because that's not how I see men. I do know people that carry themselves that way and that's cool...for them. I don't particularly send much time around them because it is unsettling for me and in the South, it does create a magnet for attention, especially from media during Pride celebrations. It's also unsettling for me because that's the way TV and movies like to portray gay men. They do not take into account all the gay men who hunt, fish, and do many outdoor, more masculine things. It's not a crime to be feminine, it's just not what I look for in a person to include in my close circle of friends.


One of the things we're fighting for is that we're attracted to whatever we're attracted to. If it's another man, it's another man. If it's a man with a certain hair cut, then that's ok. If it's a man with a certain color eyes, then that's ok, too.

For some guys it's just the presence of a penis that matters. For a majority, in my opinion, it includes masculinity. And whether a popular opinion or not, homosexuals of almost any stripe sacrifice a piece of their masculinity with who they are. We like to pretend we don't, but we do.

Sort of like the hot or not or just because posts on this board. They are never of drag queens. They are always of hot masculine men. Ask youself why. When this board starts offering hot or not posts of drag queens, we can pretend masculinity isn't important to us. Until then (which will be never) we have to be honest. Masculinity is hot.